CHILD FEARS AND PHOBIAS
Your child and every child will have and develop fears and this is a very natural thing to happen
If your child was fearless I would be constantly worried if I was the parent. Fear is developed over time from birth till the day we leave this planet. So just because your child is afraid of some things such as the Fear of Water that doesn't mean your child has a problem in fact this makes your child normal. It is only a problem when the fear is of a controlling nature and prevents them from living a normal life.
Here are some books that are good for children with a fear of water or that are afraid to swim. Some of these books also cover swimming in the deep end, while most of them try to get your child over the fear of swimming.
Monsters Under the Bed and Other Childhood Fears: When it comes to dealing and coping with your children's fears many parents have a hard time finding the best way to address the problem. Coping with fears from a child is very challenging to parents and may seem impossible to achieve. This book was designed to be the perfect tool as it informs you on how to deal with situations of fear and worry your child may have. By using this as a tool you will eliminate the fears, prevent phobias from developing, and teach your child how to relax and still maintain their wonderful imagination.
Helping Your Child Overcome Anxieties, Fears, and Phobias
Here are some of the things this book gives you and your child
- Understanding and identifying a child's fear
- Teaching your child basic relaxation techniques
- Plan for getting rid of fear through imagination, information, observation, and exposure.
Techniques to target and eliminate specific fears, such as :
Fear of Separation - Animals - Storms - Monsters
The dark - Bedtime - Transportation - Fear of school
Medicine - Dying
And Information for seeking help if the child fears refuse to let go.
Your child should be encouraged to participate in as many activities as possible but be sure not to over extend your child. The activities should be things that your child enjoys which allows them to socialize as well as play. A child who is over protected can develop fears from not participating such as swimming. The earlier a child learns to swim the better off your child will be. The longer you wait the bigger the chance of your child developing a fear of water and possibly anxieties or thoughts of drowning.
When a child shows signs that they are afraid of something then slowly reassure them that it is OK. Show them that it doesn't hurt you or other children and get them to eventually comprehend that they can eventually do it or that there's nothing in the closet. Depending on the fear they have really depends on how you go about tackling the problem or anxiety that puts stress on your child and your child's abilities.
More on child with Phobias and fears that offers a different look at how they develop.
Developing a Phobia
You spend or should spend a great deal of time with your child. Take notice of everything your child does or doesn't do.
Fear if not eventually quenched can possibly become a life long phobia. The longer you wait to address the problem or situation the harder it will be to overcome. So if you notice that a particular fear whether its water or even a fear of dogs is increasingly becoming a bigger problem then address it immediately. Don't let the fear blossom into a phobia in your child's life. Reassurance that everything will be fine and there is no need to be afraid is the best way. You have to decide if your child's fear is irrational or abnormal compared to other children that are about the same age. Keep your expectations in line with the age group that your child is in and help them to naturally develop.
When your child is afraid
"This book on child fear aids you to pinpoint and find normal and abnormal fear in children 16 and younger".
It is based on case studies and supported by the histories of the studies themselves. Fears in children tend to go away with age but the ones that don't go away often become phobias so this book targets and helps you prevent phobias from developing.
From descriptions of fears to dealing with your child's fears you will find this book to be an amazing tool to eliminate childhood fears before they develop into something that haunts them the rest of their lives.
The book has a fear survey chart which is an excellent way to diagnose and help treat your children. By recognizing these fears and being easily able to see the symptoms on the chart you will be on your way to aiding your child's proper mental health and fear prevention. The guidance in this book is excellent as it walks you through dealing with the problems associated with fear in your household.
What is an Irrational child fear?
A good example of what would be irrational is if your child is age 3 or 6 and has a fear of the water or pools. If they haven't learned to swim yet they may have a fear of the unknown. But if your child is older and his or her friends are swimming and they don't even want to get in the water not even the low part then I would say it is irrational. Often children who don't get exposed to many outside environmental factors will tend to be the most likely candidates for developing fears and phobias. This is not in every case and I'll give you a prime example: A man who has spent most of his career traveling by way of plane all of the sudden starts developing a fear and anxiety of flying. It happens all the time and it is usually caused by an outside source of new information like a plane crash. When an individual is bombarded with stories, horrific stories of plane crashes they are instilled with a fear that can grow and become a phobia or anxiety.
First Day of School Fears (read more about Preschoolers first day)
11ama misses mamma
Going to school for the first time can be hard for a child and this booklet clearly illustrates the feelings a child may feel. By himself and sad for part of the day and then feeling better and happier after lunch as he gets to play.
Mama is there to pick up her child after the day is over while her babies fears have turned to excitement and happiness. This book is highly reccomended for children going to school for the first time or even going to somewhere they are unfamiliar about.
This series of books are excellent and allow children to read and see they have nothing to fear from new experiences and meeting new people.
Babies get so use to being held and someone either touching them or holding them close. This is a normal fear fro a toddler or baby as they are still getting use to the new world and environment their living in. Be sure not to constantly hold your baby or toddler by slowly weaning them from your arms to the floor. Play with them on the floor and teach them to explore. Be sure though that they are supervised at all times because there is no telling what they might find. It is probably best that you child proof the house before your child even learns how to crawl or walk. Look around your house and imagine the things that a baby can touch, knock over, swallow or etc. I think you will find that your home has many safety issues that you should address and be concerned about. Keep chemicals up high and out of the way and put special child proof locks which are very easy to install on all cabinets in a child's reach.
Some of the basic fears of toddlers include separation, animals, loud noises, falling, being alone, separation, potty, water or bathing, bedtime, and possibly many more. Those are just some of the most common ones that are in most children or toddlers.
Fear in Small Children
Ah to be a child and find amazement in things we take for granted. Things like frogs down at the pond or butterflies that gracefully float across the field. Children are seeing things that are new to them and are soaking it in like a sponge. Everything your child does or senses is recorded and remembered. If you love playing games such as the occasional scare of your child you may find it affecting them for the rest of their life. Say you pop out of their closet late at night to scare them, they remember this. You just taught them that they should be afraid of a dark closet, or what may be under their bed. They can develop a fear of going to be altogether. Don't scare your children otherwise you may scar your child emotionally.
A list of common child fears: separation, bugs and insects, bedtime, monsters, ghosts, water, heights, animals (especially dogs) , losing a parent, not being loved, flying, Fear of falling, nightmares, strangers or people they don't know, causing mommy and daddy's divorce, as you see the list goes on and on. These are just a few of the most common fears.
Fears develop over time and some fears go away with time. The key to your child's development is for them to experience things and then be reassured afterwards. Give them plenty of love and think from a child's eye view instead of your own. Sometimes it is upsetting when our child has fears that they shouldn't have. What is more upsetting is yelling at your child instead of helping them get over their fears in a civil matter as a loving and concerned parent.
What Triggered Fear in a child?
If your child has a fear your concerned about then try and figure out what triggered the fear to begin with. It could be stress related or maybe an incident that had happened that caused a triggering event. Anxieties and anxiety disorders can surface if the proper attention is placed to helping your child. Also your children become at risk of phobia's if their fear becomes very persistent and is growing with time and age.
You as a parent can help your children, see the signs and take loving action with your child's feelings in mind.
Some parenting tips to aid in your child's fears include:
1) Be Understanding and don't yell at your child or call them names.
2) Discuss their fears and find out why they are afraid.
3) Find out what happened.
If everything has failed and you feel lost then get help from a psychologist. We as parents try to fix everything but sometimes we cant . So learn to accept what you can and can't do and if a professional opinion or direction is needed then go out and seek the professional that is needed. Your child is counting on you for your help and your help starts first with knowledge and understanding, not yelling or name calling.
Managing Child Fears
You can manage your childs fears and help them overcome them if you do it with love and understanding. To find out more on how to deal with your child's fears then I suggest you read the article about managing child fears which can also aid in curing children anxiety and phobias.
Message to Dad's
The fear is very real, be a loving and supportive dad and don't expect your baby to act like a man. In time he will grow up just fine and be every bit of man you thought he would be and more so. Let your child grow up to know and remember not only your discipline but also your love and understanding.