Losing a Job is not an easy thing to have happen
Being the provider for a family of six and only having a one parent income is hard but without having that monthly income comming in it is totally impossible. This is an overview of what I went through after my employment was terminated because I had a personality conflict with my new boss.
I Lost my job
I was working hard in the Dallas area and had recently gone through a divorce and was finally getting my life back to normal. I got a call from my Boss who had recently showed up in town and he wanted to meet at his hotel. While driving there I knew how hard I had been working and had been thinking about the possibility of a promotion. To my suprise my Boss decided to let me go and he had said that no one liked me not even my customers. I was easily angered but held my temper back. Then I explained to Bill that I was sorry to hear him say that and the unfortunate part Bill is nobody likes you.
I was speaking for all the employees under the Bill when I stated this. All the Engineers had met at a business meeting and the changes he had made were less then popular. He promoted a good friend to a high ranking position, got rid of a man everyone admired, and tehn like Jerry Jones expected everyone to just love him. Personally Bill is the Biggest dweeb I have ever met and eventually he will dig his own grave.
So since it was clear Bill and I were not going to be two people who could work together I was given an option. To either move far and transfer out of town or to be paid to quit. I chose being paid to quit as it was the best option and really the only option. I have never met anyone I havent liked or got along with but Bill takes the cake in being the biggest idiots I'd ever met.
Looking for Work
After being with this company for over 5 years I found myself looking for work which was no easy task. I was often frustrated as I ran into dead end opportunities one after another. With months gone by my confidence had diminished and I started developing a bit of a job anxiety with all the stress of bills comming in that I couldn't pay.
Day after day I searched through Monster.com and the News paper looking for another possibility and even considered changing my career all together. I thought about my new boss that had let me go and often wondered if I should have just Brown nosed him and kept my job. My conclusion came up the same every time, "Heck No", his decisions were that of a mad man and it was better to have left then to become his puppet.
Anxiety,Stress and Unpaid Bills
When you have suffered an anxiety after the build up[ of unending stress life really begins to suck. Things run through your mind like a tornado tearing up every positive thing you ever thought about yourself. The fear of being unemployed haunts you at night and is carried with you through the day as hopless feelings dangle for all to see.
Collection Agency Calls
I started to think with all the calls comming in that my only vehicle to look for work would soon become reposessed. Can you imagine having a reposessed vehicle with no way of looking for work at all. Some people are lucky as they have family and friends that live close by as a support structure but I had neither as I lived far in the country.
Look for work my Ex would say as she put her hand out for her $1000 child support check. She did nopt care about me as much as she cared about that check she was getting every month. I paid everyone of them as it left me pennieless each month with very little to eat off of.
Finally a Job Interview
I was worried about the interview, I was worried about looking like a failure in front of a complete stranger as I showed up for the interview in a Taxi. I had to lie to him by telling him that my truck broke down as I hid the fact that it had been repossessed the day before. If I was still married I would be telling my wife to lie for me as I was desperate to look as good as possible in front of the potential employer. Supporting my family at one time had become a very easy thing to do but with this bump in the road I had to relook at my life and start talking to God again. I asked him for help and to give me strength in my time of need. He helped, I got the job and I thank God for picking me up once again so I can learn how to fly.
Being a good provider
To finding a Job and Providing for ones family a man, any man would suffer mental stress, anxiety, fear and pain. We all want to be strong when times get tough and often theres nobody there to give you a hug and tell you it will be alright. Men are expected to be Super heroes in times of a crisis, not to suffer, and not to cry. "I think people often forget that we are just human", not the super heroes that have no emotions or weaknesses.
Back on my Feet
I'm back on my feet and my kids now live with me. God has not only helped me to be strong, bring my kids under my roof, but has also put faith in my heart that I carry with me always. "Thank you God"!
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