Children need their Dad

When a father drifts away from their children an empty void is created

"No matter how great a mother you are a child still needs a male figure in their life prefferably their dad"

Children Needing Father-

A child may not say so but usually their actions speak louder then their words when it comes to wanting their dad to be around. The problem with a dad not participating in their lives is the emptiness and the feeling of being unwanted. Often they may feel that they are the cause of the divorce. For a child to feel loved and not at fault the dad and mom must participate in their lives as much as possible.

You may not be able to get the dad or their father to cooperate and be a part of their lives but there is still something you can do. Most cities have a big brother program that screen out adults to participate in your childrens life. A big brother often does things like throw a football around, take your child fishing, go to the park, shoot hoops and etc... Watch your child for signs of needing a male figure in their life and don't feel bad if you cant fill both the father and mother roles. It is very hard to be both and most parents do not have time to even try ass they and you are working to try and support your child or children.

Death of a Father

When a childs father dies it can effect the whole family in a negative way. Losing your partner is devastaating but you must be strong and be there more then ever for your children. Your child may feel abandoned, alone, and uncertain about the future. Their love for their father will be strong so will the pain and loss they will feel for a very long time. Try not to forget about their father even though talking about him may seem hard. Instead when you talk about your partner and their father bring up the good time memories you all share together. It is best to plant and replant these wonderful memories in their heads.

Stay away from dating for a very long time as they will feel you are replacing their father. Most of all no matter how much you think you need a man please don't have a man move into your home shortly after their father has passed away. You will only be creating a problem for you, your children, and this new man you maybe dating. If you feel the need to date then have a night out with the girls and try not to discuss your date or dating habits with your children. If you have older children you will not be able to keep it hidden so don't even try. Instead ask them about how they feel about you dating again. Express your feelings to them only if they are mature enough to talk about it. Usually this for teen boys maybe a sore spot unless you are very very close to your teen son. You of course know your child better then anyone so think about what you can and can't discuss with them before you open your mouth.

One Parent Family

 It is very hard for one person to raise a family so trying to do so may take a little bit more reading,education,and thinking before you speak or act. Your child's Mental Health Developmment may depend on how you handle and deal with many of the situations that lie in front of you. Be smart by being ready and expect problems before they happen. By knowing the possibile actions of your child before hand will give you the advantage when you have to react to your childs outbursts and questions they may ask.

Discipline your child when needed

Moms have a tendency to give into to their childs crying and whining. Well now that dad is not around you have to be a mother who cares but can serve up some tough love to their kids. A child will need you to set rules aand to stick to them. Only on certain occasions should you bend when it comes to your rules. Being a mom and a dad is hard but you can do it if you staay tough. Tough does not mean to be a dad all the time as they also need the love that a mother can give. You will be able to switch roles as time goes on and as you get better at handling situations and giving your children guidance youll find being both a mom and a dad can be very rewarding..

Stress,anxiety,depression

Children needing their father or missing their dad my develop conditions such as stress or even an anxiety condition. Not having a father to ask questions about such things as sex, girls and dating can stress them out and leave them often not being able to deal with situations properly as their friends will become their teachers. Make sure a male role model such as an uncle, Grandfather, or even a Big Brother is brought into their life to give them guidance and answers questions they may have. Your child may seem to want to be alone but in reality they need love and attention more then ever and unfortunately a mther rarely can fill the needs of their teenage son. Younger children often handle it better abnd adapt quicker but this is not always the case. If your children recently lost their dad make sure to talk to them often and offer an ear when they need to talk or a shoulder to cry on when they are missing dad.

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